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Want To Be A Business Partner With Friends Or Family?
By Karen Calcagno CPCC, ORSCC, PCC
When settling an estate, families often find themselves in business partnership with other family members. They may mot have started out this way, but as the estate is being resolved, there are big decisions to make. Shall we stay in this family business? What will we have to learn and do in order to succeed?
Also, many people receiving an inheritance will use the funds to start their “dream business”. They often turn to friends or family for partnership.
So who do you go into business with if not friends or family? The friendship may not be the problem in itself. In fact, it is necessary to be friends with your partners to have any chance of success in the long run. But there is more to it than that.
Friendship/respect is a necessary condition, but not a sufficient one. It is like a marriage; love without the other ingredients, is never enough by itself to insure long
term success.
Friendship and respect must be the foundation.Here are some other issues to explore before “tying the knot”.
What is your vision for the business?
Do you share the same aspirations for the business?
Does one of you want to build an empire while the other wants to create a simple lifestyle kind of business?
What are your core values and how do you want to see them play out in your day‐today business?
What will you consider to be real success in this business?
How will employees, customers, suppliers, etc. all be treated?
How much money will you put into the business?
How much sweat equity will you put into the business?
If either of these is unequal, how have you decided to work this out? How will you keep it fair?
How much do you expect to get out of the business? Are yours and your potential
partner’s spending habits similar? Are you both free of debt?
What is each person’s credit rating?
Can each of you help to guarantee a loan, if necessary?
What are your work habits and work ethic? Are your personal energies and work
rhythms compatible enough to keep the partnership feeling fair to all the partners?
How much time off do you plan to take each day, each week, each year? Some people
plan to go into business so they can play more. Some go into business so they can
have more flexible time, but will work much more than the 40 hour week.
Some go into business so they can play more.
What are each of your strengths and weaknesses? What provisions will you make to
cover areas where neither of you have strengths?
Do you have very similar levels of commitment to your dream?
Who will be the President of the company? What roles will the other partners play?
What will the job descriptions be? How will that be decided? Who will get paid how
much?
How will company decisions be made? How will the company be led? Be governed?
What if one of you gets married and the new spouse gets a job offer in another city?
Would you move away?
All of the above questions apply for family members going into business together
plus…
Family dynamics add layers of complexity to going into business together. Families
in business together MUST understand that successful business dynamics and
successful family dynamics are very different. If you do not clearly understand and
act upon that knowledge, you are destined for a heap of grief.
Appropriate business systems and policies will be challenged when:
• you use family decision making and leadership styles at work.
• you hire an out of work relative, just because you want to help out.
• a family member’s life style can’t be supported by his or her salary in the
family business.
• grandchildren arrive and the family believes it’s best to have Mom home with
baby, yet the job needs to be done & the new Mom needs the money.
• Mom or Dad want to retire, but still want/need their full pay.
• family members are brought into the business before they have proven
themselves(to themselves and others) in the outside job market.
• family feelings run the business.
There are countless other questions to talk about, but this is a start. Talk. Talk some
more. Listen to your gut. If you don’t like the answers you hear from potential
partners, keep talking. Being clear about what makes a successful partnership, is a
vital step toward making good choices up front.
Go in with your eyes wide open rather than with stars in your eyes.
Partners should be friends, but friends/family do not always make good partners.
